By: Tracey Manailescu of Tracey M Events
Weddings are a tricky business. You want to stand out from your friends and families weddings, but not venture to far off of the path to keep everyone happy. What if you threw caution to the wind, and just went after what you really wanted as a couple for your wedding? I say, just do it!
Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties: If this is something that makes one or both of you uncomfortable, it doesn’t need to happen. Plan a dinner party, club night, concert, or a fun weekend (or even week) trip with the entire wedding party instead.
First Look Photos: Yes. Yes. Yes! We love them! Why wait to see each other for the first time in front of 100 of your closest friends and family? Have a private moment (with a photographer to capture it) for raw, honest and heartfelt emotions. Those photos will mean so much to you later on.
Choreographed First Dances: Take dance lessons. You won’t regret it! It’s an activity to do together, it gets you away from the stress of wedding planning, and it will be most likely be fun. Really! Give the guests something to look at. No one wants, or really cares to see you huddled together and turning slowly for 4 minutes and twenty seconds.
Wedding Cake (or Not): Cake cutting fees and worries about where to store it, or what if something happens to it once it’s been delivered are realistic concerns. Why have cake at all? Have an elaborate sweet table instead? Or better yet, one of these ideas:
Sweet and savoury station, a cookie bar, a pie station, a pickle stand, tapas and wine bar, a waffle or pancake bar, build your own nacho stand, tacos and tequila, ice cream bar, or a hot dog and popcorn stand?
Matching Bridesmaids Dresses: I love it when the bridesmaids get to choose a dress or a pantsuit that matches their individual style and taste. You can direct them with a colour (or a shade of the desired colour) to go with your theme and then let them choose what looks best on them. If you do this (and you are not going with them when they purchase the outfit) I would definitely recommend setting some guidelines to follow for length and cut of the outfit to ensure that it still meets your expectations.
Maid of Honour and Best Man: If your best friend is of the opposite sex, then show them off. Who says they have to be of the same gender?
Dinner and Dance Reception: Opt for a breakfast, brunch or lunch instead. Shake it up a little and give your guests something to look forward to!